-1-After my due date (Tuesday) came and went with no baby arriving, I decided to do what I could to help things along. I was reading lots of articles online about "natural ways to induce labor" (and I just saw that Ana linked to a great past post about many of these methods, which you can read here).
Wednesday morning, I did a bunch of them in succession, and to my pleasant surprise, something actually "worked." I began having contractions! They continued through the morning, some of them strong enough that I figured I was to the point where I'd better take some action and rally the forces. I had Tom come home from work (with his laptop, so he could at least keep working until it was time to go to the hospital), my mom came over to pick up the kids, and our doula was put "on notice" and kept in touch with us by phone throughout the day.
All afternoon, Tom and I sat around waiting, writing down the timing of my contractions and feeling pretty excited that we would meet our baby soon. But as the day wore on, things started slowing down. I tried all the labor-inducing tricks again, and they just weren't working anymore. By early evening, I finally admitted defeat as the contractions totally fizzled out.
And then I just felt such a sense of guilt. I had inconvenienced so many people in my rush to get my labor going. Tom had lost a lot of time he could have used to finish up a pressing project for work, my doula had surely cleared her schedule and arranged childcare for the day, my mom had committed to watching my kids, and my dad was prematurely excited (and texting/calling just a little too often) about the impending birth. My mom offered to keep the kids overnight anyways, just in case things should start up again. But they never did. And I had to drive over and pick them up in the morning.
-2-So yesterday, I decided to just let it go. I'm not going to try to force it. When it's time, it will happen. That's not to say that I'm not still anxious to meet my baby, or that I'm not still fearful about the possibility of an induction. But I have a lot more peace about things now. I can't just put life totally on hold waiting, and I can't let myself get disappointed and cranky each day that baby doesn't come. And if I'm honest with myself, I haven't set myself up to have a very focused Lent this year, so it's good for me to just offer up this time of waiting.
-3-While packing up our books for the impending move, I was happy to discover a couple good Lenten titles that I didn't know/had forgotten we owned. We have a TON of great old (and by old, I mean, many from the late 1800s/early 1900s) Catholic books - most of which Tom acquired from various generous friends before we were married. But with the huge pile of books already on my "must read" list, I don't often take the time to dig through our own bookshelves and see what little gems might be there.
I just finished Fr. Weiser's The Easter Book, which explains many historic and ethnic Lenten and Easter practices. It's a companion to his Christmas Book which I read during Advent. I would recommend both titles to anyone looking to celebrate the Liturgical Year in their families [I found ours for a few bucks each at the local Catholic used bookstore...the one I linked at $60 is overpriced, so shop around if you are interested in getting it]. Last night, I started on The Passion Of Our Lord by Cardinal De Lai [our version is an old one, so I can't vouch for the quality of this re-publication that I linked to], and hope to finish it before Easter. I'm not far yet, but it looks like it will be informative and inspiring - it shares reflections on the Gospels of the Passion.
-4-So.....there was a guy murdered in front of his house on the street next to ours a few nights ago (it was a drug-related thing...). Tom and I got the scoop from some neighbors who actually witnessed it, and (wisely, I believe) decided *not* to mention the incident to our parents. No need to freak them out. But my dad must have seen it on the news, because now he keeps e-mailing us updates about the case. But I have to say...it does make it a little bit easier to have to leave this house in a couple weeks.
-5-We don't let Sly watch much tv. If Tom had his way, Sly would probably never see a single show or movie for his entire childhood. But a couple mornings a week, I do let him watch a half hour to an hour of whatever's on PBS. He enjoys it, and it seems to be a short enough time not to have a negative effect on him.
But my mom is one of those people who literally has the television on 24 hours a day. When Sly goes over there, it's ALL he does. When the kids were over her house on Tuesday, I know (from talking to him later) that he watched at LEAST three movies (Toy Story, Puss in Boots, and Homeward Bound), plus some "kids' shows". I don't have a problem with him watching a movie every now and then, but that is just ridiculous. When I picked the kids up the next morning, I felt like I had to spend the day helping him to "detox" from the zombie-like state he was in...
I have brought it up before, but I don't think my mom gets why it's a concern. I'm not sure she'd really know what to do with him the whole time, if she couldn't rely on the tv. It's sort of a sensitive situation....but I do need her free babysitting services sometimes! Anyone deal with a similar situation before?
-6-I should have posted this a few weeks ago, but...better late than never, right? A friend shared with me a great guide that her priest put together to explain Lent/Easter and the various Liturgical activities, symbolism, events, etc. connected with them.
Fr. Smith's Lent and Easter Guide 2014 [this opens up a dropbox where you can download the pdf]
The other guides on here also look very useful!
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