We are expecting another baby!
for what feels like ages, and it's been so hard to keep it in. Tom and
I are in disagreement about how soon to spread the news. He prefers to
wait...I think there might be more complex reasons under the surface,
but the main one he gives is to wait for the risk of miscarriage to
decrease. But having experienced a miscarriage in the past, I feel like the
more people we can get praying for the safety of the baby early, the
I'm due on March 25th. It's the Feast of the
Annunciation, so it's easy to remember. Of course, my other two came a
bit early, so this one probably won't get that birthday. There are lots
of other good feast days in March, though.
There was a
bit of disagreement over the due date. In the past, I have charted my fertility, though I
wasn't doing so this time around. Of course, once you understand how
your body and your cycle work, it's not like you can unlearn that
information. So I had a pretty good idea of where I was in my cycle in
the months leading up to conception. When I went for my first prenatal
checkup, the midwife calculated a due date based on menstruation. I
told her that date was no good: not only do I always ovulate late in my
cycle, but in fact, I thought I could pretty accurately pinpoint an
exact date of ovulation. She didn't seem to trust my intuition,
though. There was a nine day discrepancy between our dates, and that
was too much for her to feel comfortable with. She asked me to get an
ultrasound to confirm. So I did...and guess who was right? Humph! I understand why asked me to do it, but I'm still kind of frustrated,
because ultrasounds are astoundingly expensive (even with insurance), and we had explained
that we were trying to keep the costs of the pregnancy down as much as
Anyways, thinking about having three kids
is pretty exciting and crazy. Somehow, it feels like a really
significant number to me. As if with three, I'm crossing some sort of
line, and now things are getting real. It's funny, though, because three
isn't even that many kids! But it suddenly feels like we're much
more on the verge of being a big family. Which is a little scary, but
This is a section where I would love some advice from other parents, especially those with bigger families than my own!
Having a third kid is going to bring some practical challenges. For one, we'll need a new car
(i.e. new to us, but definitely used). There is no way we can fit a
third carseat in the back. Isn't it the most ridiculous thing that three grown adults could fit in the back of my car, and yet three tiny little children can not?! Car seats are way too big.
I've heard some people say that if you buy
just the right combination of seats, it's possible to fit three in the back of some
cars. Frankly, I'm not even going to bother looking into this. I can't afford
to spend hundreds of dollars on three brand-new seats when we already have three
that work perfectly well. Besides, we'll need a bigger car soon enough
anyways, so I'd rather use our money for that. Our double stroller already takes up the whole trunk as it is, so I'd love a little more space to fit all the "implements of childhood" we seem to have to cart around.
mother-in-law is going to lend us her Jeep again this winter because unlike our car, it
actually functions on ice and snow, and she's afraid of her grandbabies getting into an accident. We
plan to use that opportunity to sell our car - get some money in
the bank - and then shop around for a used something-or-other with more
space. I'm pretty certain we'll have to tap into our savings for a
house, which is disappointing. But at least we'll have a little time to
shop around for a deal.
Does anyone have any family vehicle
suggestions? I would be fine with a mini-van, but Tom hopes to find
something which is easier to repair himself (he tells me the engine on a mini-van is very hard to access) and also "less uncool" if possible.
We also need to figure out a
sleeping arrangement for the kids. We plan to keep them all in one bedroom. Space and location-wise, it just makes the most sense. But I'm
not sure what sort of bed to put everyone in. Based on what we already
own and a few beds various people have offered us, we have many options
at our disposal: Two cribs, two toddler beds, one single bed,
a set of single-sized bunk beds, and a set of double/single-sized bunk beds. When the baby
comes, Sly will be three and a half, and Stella will be nineteen
months...so I'm thinking bunk beds will need to wait a few years (?). Any thoughts or
My first trimester is wrapping
up here, and I'm looking forward to some easier days (please, Lord!). Morning sickness
wasn't too bad this time around, but I have been feeling pretty exhausted most days.
It's been so much harder to squeeze a nap in now that I have two kids to
watch. And they were on completely separate nap schedules (!!!)
for most of this pregnancy. I was resorting to desperate measures, like
trying to catch catnaps on the floor of their bedroom while they climbed
all over me. Until a week ago, that is, when I just could not
handle it anymore, and forced poor Stella to adjust herself to Sly's nap cycle.
There were a couple rough days for her, but blessedly, they took place
while we were visiting the in-laws, and I therefore had many extra
helpers so still got my daily nap anyways, no matter what
the children were doing. Haha! Things are great now, and I've had a nap almost every day since.
I also decided to wean
Stella completely. She was only nursing in the middle of the night, three
times, and it was merely for comfort. It was taking too much out of me
and robbing me of precious sleep and I felt like I was just dying of
thirst all the time. So I just cut her off cold turkey. Amazingly, she's
been sleeping completely through the night ever since and for the first
time ever in her short little life - around 11 hours! It's pretty
Anyways, if you could remember me and the little one in a prayer, I would be very grateful :-)