Monday, July 9, 2012
Sharing a Bed
I found this graphic pretty amusing. I thought Tom might agree, so sent him the picture.
Here's his response:
"Dude, it really wasn’t bad at all until the baby belly came along. Since you’ve been sleeping on your side, the horizontal space you take up has been enormous, though mostly due to limbs outstretched onto my side. I can’t tell you how often I’ve come to bed to find you sleeping right down the middle with your limbs all splayed out on my side… a few times, I’ve actually contemplated getting into bed on your side because there’s often enough empty real estate over there to build a strip mall ; )"
I guess at least I have my pregnancy as an excuse for now. But I've definitely heard Tom complain about this exact situation before (I usually blame the cat, who likes to sleep beside me in that "uncharted territory" labeled above). Regardless, the gradual transition in our approach to sharing a bed has been interesting.
I remember those blissful early days of marriage, where we just couldn't snuggle close enough to each other all night. We had a full-size bed for the first few weeks, too, and it seemed like plenty of room. We were just wrapped around one another completely. One time we even decided to "fall asleep kissing" (?). And we did....don't ask me how we managed to breathe all night...oh, silly newlyweds, we were.
Now, in our upgraded queen-size bed, we feel a bit cramped. There's more bickering over "whose side" we're each on, and definitely less frequent snuggling. Eh, that's just how it goes, I guess. We'd rather be able to sleep comfortably than be clung to all night.
On a few happy occasions, we've stayed in hotels with king-size beds. It feels like heaven not to "have" to touch each other!
And this is one of many reasons why we could never ever be a "co-sleeping" family. Adding a kicking, tossy-turny baby/toddler into the mix would just make Mommy really cranky. It's one thing to lay with the baby in the bed when you're nursing in the middle of the night, and just let the baby and yourself fall asleep (the only way to ever get enough sleep, in my opinion)...but as soon as that little person starts moving around more and demanding their own fair share of bed, it's time for them to go back to their own, I say!